I shared our bedtime routine for the boys on the blog last week and thought it would be a great time to share my mama bedtime routine as well. It’s what I do after we’ve gotten the boys to sleep, hopefully by 9 pm!
My husband is blessed to be able to go from literally chasing lots of little feet into bed for read aloud time, to being sound asleep in a matter of minutes. He’s asleep almost the second his head hits the pillow! I greatly admire and covert this trait, ha!
Not so for this mama!
While I’m not an insomniac, I do need at least an hour to unwind before going to bed. And I can sure use all the help I can get in the drifting off to sleep department.
Staying asleep can also be a challenge for me. But over the years, I’ve picked up a few tips that have helped me tremendously both get to sleep and stay asleep!
Here’s my personal bedtime routine for a peaceful night of rest, with tips for getting to sleep and staying asleep. (Note: I am not a doctor. This is not intended as a one size fits all or ideal bedtime routine for all individuals. This is simply my personal bedtime routine, with suggestions I’ve picked up over the years that currently work for me in this season of life. Please consult a medical professional if you are suffering from serious sleep related issues or complications. )
Mama Bedtime Routine:
–Dim lights & close blackout curtains: As mentioned in my previous bedtime routine post, we dim the lights earlier in the evening to help everyone get ready to settle down. And we also shut our super awesome blackout curtains. (I have a difficult time resting after the sun comes up but prefer to sleep until 6:30 am if at all possible. These lovely curtains help me get a little extra shut eye. They are also a life saver when you have a newborn around that’s keeping you up all night and you need a little extra morning sleep! We also use blackouts in the boy’s room, so this gives me a few extra minutes of quiet time in the mornings before I’m showered with their sweet morning hugs and kisses).
–Sip a warm drink: I always sip on something warm while going about my mama night routine. Sometimes, it’s just one of my favorite hot herbal teas or Natural Calm, the anti-stress drink. Both delicious options. But usually, I prepare turmeric tea before heading into the bedroom. It’s super easy. I simply pour boiling water or hot almond milk over a dash of organic turmeric, a pinch of organic cinnamon, and a small slice of ginger. Then, I add 1 tsp. of raw honey and the freshly squeezed juice of half a lemon. It’s incredibly delicious and good for you too, plus the turmeric is anti-inflammatory!
–Light a candle: I light a candle or two as soon as I close the bedroom door. The flickering immediately creates a soothing atmosphere in the already dim room. I can’t get enough candle time in the evenings! For additional aromatherapy benefits, I also fill my doTerra aromatherapy diffuser with lavender essential oil to diffuse until lights out. This diffuser also has a lovely glow that softly illuminates the room.
–Play soothing music: I prefer soft background music at bedtime. Anything too loud or fast paced is too overstimulating for me as bedtime draws near. I usually go for my classical favorites. I especially enjoy Lifescapes Beethoven in the evenings because it mixes the classical music I love with the nature sounds I find so soothing!
–Take a homeopathic sleep aid: I take a homeopathic sleep aid to help me get to sleep most evenings. They are non-habit forming, free of side effects, and work naturally with your body to help you get the rest you need. I’m pretty sure I’ve tried about every natural sleep aid on the market. I only use 1 each evening but there are 2 natural sleep aids that have worked especially well for me. I use them interchangeably depending on circumstance and desired effect. The first is Bach Rescue Night Spray. It’s created from a combination of flower essences. I love that it’s a spray. Just 2 sprays on the tongue and it really helps me relax in the evenings! I also use Boiron’s Quietude with great success. These are small pleasant tasting tablets that are taken right before bedtime. They dissolve easily in the mouth and relieve restlessness to help me get some cut eye!
–Brush teeth & complete a skin care routine: I’m planning a separate post about all natural skin care and my favorite homemade beauty products. But after I’ve taken my homeopathic sleep aid and finished my tea, I head to the bathroom to brush my teeth and wash up for bed. I like feeling fresh and clean, so there’s no gunk on my face when I hit the sheets.
–Gratitude practice, journal, & plan the next day: After washing up, I head to my cozy chair. It’s where I usually go when I need to relax, work, or nurse baby. There’s a small table for holding necessities and a reading lamp, with a small bookshelf on the other side. First, I do my gratitude practice by writing down at least three things I’m feeling grateful for. (I used to keep a separate journal for my gratitude practice but that was a bit overwhelming, at least in this season of life.) When I received my new Day Designer, I was delighted to see that there’s already a section provided to record your daily gratitude list! (I love all things stationery and planner related. And I’ve used several different planners but the Day Designer has been my favorite planner so far!) Next, I record the day’s highlights in my one sentence journal. I use The Happiness Project One Sentence Journal. It’s a five-year record too! So I’ll be able to keep five years worth of great memories all together in one little book that I can easily pull out and reflect on whenever I wish! So fun! Finally, I use my planner again to plan the following day and make/review any next day to-dos.
–Phone in airplane mode & turn up white noise: Before climbing into bed, I turn our air filter up a notch to help block out any outside noise. (We’ve had our Austin Air filter for 12 years now and have loved every minute. We had to save up for a while but the allergy relief alone was so worth it. And like I said, its sound also helps me catch some z’s!) Then, I set the alarm on my phone and place it on the charger in the next room, making sure it’s on airplane mode. I’m a light sleeper so I always make sure it’s on silent and that I won’t be bothered by notifications during those precious sleeping hours.
–Lavender Linen Spray: I very lightly spritz our sheets with a sleep inducing aromatherapy mist before bed. We’re partial to lavender but other calming oils, such as chamomile, are perfect for evening time as well. I usually make my own lavender linen spray but I received Aura Cacia Room and Body Mist as a Christmas gift this year. Such a treat! It’s not technically a linen spray but I adore using it as one!
–Hand cream & cuticle oil: I follow a super simple natural nail care routine. I like to have my nails clean and leave them bare so they can breathe and absorb the natural ingredients I apply. This is for personal aesthetic reasons but also because I have extremely sensitive skin that reacts negatively to most chemicals in nail salon products. As well as being sensitive, my skin also tends towards dryness. To keep my hands and cuticles in good shape I always try to remember to apply hand cream and cuticle oil before bed. (A quick DIY hand massage is also pretty relaxing here.) Plus, night time is wonderful because you can easily leave the moisturizer on overnight so it can completely soak in. For hand cream I often use plain raw coconut oil but I’ve also enjoyed making and using this DIY lavender hand salve. I use this nail strengthening cuticle oil recipe to make my own cuticle oil too. It transformed my cuticles from parched and splitting to supple and moisturized! Yay!
–Read: I try to save at least half an hour at bedtime, before lights out at 10 pm, to catch up on my current fiction read. (I just started Cinder: The Lunar Chronicles by Marissa Meyer. It’s a modern day retelling of the classic Cinderella fairytale.) I try to get cozy and really enjoy the story and the characters. (I read mostly nonfiction during the day but find it too stimulating and thought provoking for bedtime. What about you?)
Then, I place my book on the bedside table, turn off the lights, and hopefully drift happily off into dreamland!
So that’s my relaxing mama bedtime routine! The hubby and I also like to squeeze in 30 minutes either before or after my mama evening routine to catch up and talk about our days!
Are you like me, needing some time to unwind in the evening, or are you blessed to be asleep in minutes?
What does your personal bedtime routine look like?
Do you have any tips for getting a good nights sleep? For falling asleep & staying asleep? We’d love to hear them!